Top 10 Mistakes Divorcing Fathers Make

Be Smart About Your Divorce or Custody Case

Although the law is technically neutral, the reality is that mothers usually are awarded custody of children. One reason is entrenched ideas about gender roles. Another reason is that many dads simply don't fight for custody. And lastly, many men make mistakes or fail to take certain steps to position themselves for a fair shake in divorce, custody and child support.

The Atlanta attorneys of Edwards & Associates have developed a reputation as effective fathers' rights advocates. We handle all issues of Georgia family law, with a special focus on high-asset divorce and contested custody litigation. We can help you avoid the common pitfalls and take proactive steps to improve the outcome of your case.

Top Ten Mistakes Fathers Make That Cost Them Money or Custody

1. Don't flaunt your new girlfriend in front of your estranged wife. "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned", especially when her nose is rubbed in it.

2. Don't hide assets or transfer property. When the other attorney finds it, you might end up forfeiting all of the assets. The judge will hold a grudge and your credibility will be shot with your spouse, your own lawyer and opposing counsel.

3. Don't just decide one day to get divorced. It is a long process that requires goal setting, strategy and financial planning.

4. Don't underestimate your wife. Women are smarter than their husbands give them credit for. Women file two-thirds of all divorces. Assume she's plotting and planning and is several steps ahead of you.

5. Don't badmouth your wife in front of the kids. First of all, it is hurtful and confusing for your children. Secondly, your kids should never have to choose sides. Lastly, don't be so sure they will side with you.

6. Don't badmouth your wife to the judge. Parental alienation is the surest way to lose any foothold for custody. The court is looking for which adult will foster cooperation, not who will be first to throw the co-parent under the bus.

7. Don't allow your wife to "work out the details." Far too many men fail to hire their own legal counsel, trusting that their spouse's lawyer will be fair and decent. Ha. Good one.

8. Don't be a provider, be a dad. The court will not award you custody because of your fabulous job and ability to lavish your child with money and gadgets. All work and no time for parenting only assures that you will have to continue working to pay all that child support.

9. Don't fight over the stupid stuff. Are you incurring legal fees just to spite the other spouse? Are you missing the big picture, like home equity, joint debts and retirement funds?

10. Don't get physical. Don't yell or make threats. Any incidents of domestic violence or any behavior that smacks of "anger management issues" will be thrown back in your face, especially in custody determination.  Or worse, she can get a restraining order against you before the divorce even begins, which can all but elimintate your chances of getting custody.

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